Engaging our culture is not DECIDUOUS?

I still think decisioning is manipulating the consciences of God's people.  Raise your hand if you are a sinner and want to be saved.  Who does, who doesn't  Softened, Hardened consciences?  Who says?
God is the great deciduous farmer who hardens and softens the consciences.
Are we dealing with the elements of our culture that add to the sealing of people's eternal destinies?

The servant of the Lord must be gentle toward all and apt to teach...What does that mean?