I do remember, with fondness the slights of influence that were inspirational to us, when we were in our early married days. We had elders in our lives, who were positively directive to help us hone our desires in marriage into one. What we want to be as individuals did not eclipse what we wanted to be as a family. What is a family that fears the Lord? What are the investments of time and attention to look like? First thing, praying and seeking the Lord to help you to love and care for eachother. Second preparing to care for children and the aging parents that God has given you. You will want to be ready to care for them when they get older. That is why you want the woman to be at home, so that she can be that care taker to children and the elderly in a humane way.
Pastor Martin did this, by telling stories of the struggles of he and his wife in the care of their parents. The struggles of having different scruples than the older generation. He laid out the conflicts of carrying children and parents on his family's back and we yearned to be that kind of a family to our siblings and parents.
What should you be yearning for, young praying women? You should want to be godly and growing in grace and wisdom, so that your fruitfulness will be useful to God. Yearn to use your beauty in hospitality. Yearn to use your knowledge to serve the brethren. Yearn to see the prayers of your hearts enfleshed in the world around you. Yearn to pour out yourselves for the education of the next generation and the comforts of the older generation. We followed like little lambs and we loved to do this. For her (the church) our tears were spent. For her our hearts were enlivened and enlightened. He directed our loves and our lights. I see you lighting up, my daughters. Let the word of God direct that light.
It is not by accident, that we were homeschooling and trying to direct the generation after us. We were instructed and directed to do this. We had calculating elders send us out, as it were, two by two.
There were wolves and they vanquished the flock in their self-serving. Took and did not give. Wow, what gullible sheep, you are?
God knows!
He knows our hearts and he knows the people who are self serving and ate of the flock.
God allowed us to care some for parents.
Anyway, it is the older generation to make the beds of the future generations. We are the ones who teach them to pray and to serve in this nation. We are the ones who make them desire to serve Him, or not, as the case may be. Thank God for the elders at Trinity, who gave us a sight for past our own noses.
We seemed to take it upon ourselves in the matter of course. It was like a blooming garden as the bellies which were once the youthful feminine shape became distorted and went from oval to round and sometimes several times. It is beautiful to observe, from the outside, now. The beauty that God has placed in the human reproductive cycles. Even that was directed, by "Mr. Conductor", so to speak. You families are waiting and waiting, he said one day to us all. Look at dear Carol Hoffmaier, who is now providentially hindered from having any more children. Will you wait, till your bodies can't have anymore? We shuddered to think of this. We were waiting until...the nests were just so. They could or couldn't be just so for long. We learned to trust the Lord and God used our dear Elders there at Trinity to guide us through the fecundity of our precious childbearing years. 
